WHAT IS a modern day feminist?

What is a Modern Day Feminist?

By Letrecia

Most people when they hear the word feminist automatically envision a bra burning, hairy legged, man-hating lesbian on a singular mission to bash any idea that she should be remotely “girly” simply because she is a woman. Do I really have to tell you how outdated and disproportioned this idea of what a feminist should look like really is? What does the modern day feminist look like? Well, look around you, she could be the soccer mom taking her children to their game, she could be the CEO on a power lunch with other executives, she could be your children’s Sunday school teacher, or even the woman next to you in line at the grocery store. Modern feminism is more about a set of ideals than someone’s appearance.

To say that someone could not possibly be a feminist because they wear makeup and love a man would be like saying someone could not possibly be a Christian because they dress in a Goth fashion and listen to heavy metal. The outward appearance of a feminist is truly not any different than that of anyone else, and to be a feminist a woman does not have to be a radical making demands to every passerby who will remotely listen. The ideals and beliefs that a woman holds within her heart are what define her, not only as having a feminist or traditionalist mindset, but also in whom she is. There are many misconceptions about what most feminists today believe, people often associate the most radical views with the concept of feminism, so let’s look at the ideas people perceive to be what a feminist should be and what most truly are.

Link to article: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/321336/what_is_a_modern_day_feminist.html


Sexism in the Traditional Marriage Ceremony

By Birdie, published Apr 25, 2007

Almost every little girl dreams of her perfect wedding day. She imagines the dress, the vows, and even the guests. Weddings in movies are generally exceptional events. Plenty of flowers, bridesmaids and gorgeous (or purposefully hideous) bridesmaid dresses. Immediately after the wedding there is a wonderful reception with lots and lots of dancing and then the bride and groom are whisked away in a super-stretch limo to some enchanted getaway for the perfect honeymoon. The bride is beautiful, the groom in handsome. This is the perfect wedding that every little girl dreams of.

Unfortunately, the wedding ceremony isn’t quite as perfect as little girls dream. Much of the wedding is filled with antiquated sexist rituals that really, have no place in modern day society. In fact, many modern brides and grooms have begun to revise the ceremony to fit their beliefs and create new traditions. Here’s a look at some of the sexist elements in the traditional wedding ceremony.

Love, honor, and obey.
Only the woman says the “obey” part in the traditional ceremony. The thinking is that the man is the head of the household. With conservative Christians he is in a way, an extension of God and therefore the woman must obey him. The obvious assumption that the woman is inferior to the man is beginning to upset modern brides and many grooms. Many couples are dropping the obey part from their vows or even writing their own.

Who gives this woman?
At the beginning of the traditional wedding ceremony the priest, minister, or preacher asks “And who gives this woman to this man?” Where upon the father of the bride says “I do.” This tradition makes it seem as if the woman is property to be transferred from one superior man to another superior man. Many people are changing the phrase to “Her mother and I,” or even dropping it completely. After all, in modern day society it is the woman who chooses to get married. Her father does not choose her husband for her anymore.

Human Trafficing and Slavery Statistics

Now here is an issue that Al Gore and others should be more concerned about then global warming.  I am going to list a whole bunch of statistics here but I think they are worth staring at for a while.  This is seriously provoking me to the place of intercession for those who truly have no voice in the world today.  I would suggest you take a few minuets out of your busy day to read these statistics.

This list does not even begin to scratch the surface.  I think after reading a bit about it you will see that Human trafficking is a bit more important then the global warming.

This subject hits pretty close to home for me.  As many of you know I spent a year in Africa before coming to IHOP.  In Africa one of my many responsibilities was to help lead our weekly ministry to the prostitutes.  Twice a week we would take a truck down to the inner city and bring loads of bread and would hold a church service.  I became good friends with those girls over that year.  It was weird walking down the streets of Maputo and having a group of prostitutes yell your name out as you walked around the corner.  Talk about dirty looks from the on lookers!  I think they enjoyed talking to us because for once in their lives someone actually cared about them and did not look at them as objects.

Some things still haunt me though to this day from those church services.  I remember on a weekly basis sitting in those church services worshiping Jesus with the broken and hurting of the world.  When suddenly a white pick up truck or a BMW would pull up around the corner.  In the car would be a couple of men and suddenly we would loose two or three of the girls in our church service.  What really got to me was seeing the young girls, 12 or 13, leave the church service to go of and do their “job.”  On a weekly basis I would wittennes child prostitution first hand.  I remember feeling helpless as I sat in the dirt with tears running down my face.  Girls who were so innocent at times were having their purity and innocence taking from them on a daily basis.  This is the only life they knew.  To them it was natural, to them it was what their mothers had done for years before them.  This was life for them on a daily basis.

I still to this day remember their faces and pray for them on a daily basis.  I pray for the countless of street children whom I became friends with as well over the time I was there.  I pray that in the midst of great darkness and hopelessness they would encounter the love of Jesus Christ.  I pray that they, the weakest and the most broken of the earth would arise from the ashes and become some of the mightiest men and women to ever walk the face of the earth.  I pray that they would walk in such goldiness and such humility that the earth would not be worthy of them.

Ill write more later on this.  Its too hard to write more right now.  Back to the facts.  Read them, dwell on them, let them stir you to intercession, the only answer for these lost children of the world.

Here are the facts, true facts that can not be disputed:

1)  The International Labour Organization estimates there are 218 million working children aged between five and 17 (2006)

2) 126 million are estimated to work in the worst forms of child labour — one in every 12 of the world’s five to 17 years olds (2006)

3)  74 million children under 15 are in hazardous work and should be “immediately withdrawn from this work” (2006)

4)  8.4 million children are in slavery, trafficking, debt bondage and other forms of forced labour, forced recruitment for armed conflict, prostitution, pornography and other illicit activities.

5)  There are around 3000 enslaved Albanian children used for begging and cleaning windows and cars without payment in Italy and Greece.

6)  An estimated 496,000 children are in slavery in Bangladesh.

7)  Over 10-20 million people are subjected to debt bondage largely in India, Bolivia, Brazil, Peru and Philippines.

8) Of 35 million soccer balls stitched in Pakistan, children produce one quarter of the balls, most of them as bonded servants.

9)  Nearly 500,000 minors work in virtual slavery conditions in Senegal.

10)   “Restavek” the practice of sending children to serve as unpaid domestic labour for more affluent city dwellers exist in the country of Haiti. UNICEF estimated that 25,000 to 300,000 children, 85% of them girls, are victims of this practice.

11)   Information gathered by the British charity, Christian Aid, and reported by Reuters, indicates that up to 10,000 children between ages 6 and 14 are enslaved in brothels in Sri Lanka.

12)  There are no universally accepted figures for the number of bonded child labourers in India. However, in the carpet industry alone, human rights organisations estimate that there may be as many as 300,000 children working, many of them under conditions that amount to bonded labour.

13)  Some NGOs estimate that the number of bonded labourers in India is 5 million persons. However, in a report released during the year, Human Rights Watch estimated that 40 million persons, including 15 million children, are bonded labourers. The report notes that the majority of bonded labourers are Dalits, and that bondage is passed from one generation to the next.

14)  90% of the 100,000 women in prostitution in Bombay, India, are indentured slaves.

15)  Persons sometimes are sold into virtual slavery. Many boys from India, some of whom are as young as 4 years, end up as riders in camel races in West Asia and the Gulf States, especially to the United Arab Emirates, or begging during the Haj. Girls and women end up either as domestic workers or sex workers.

16)  It takes up to 15 years for girls held in prostitution via debt-bondage in India to purchase their freedom.

17)  The number of street children worldwide is almost impossible to know, although the WorldHealth Organization (WHO) and UNICEF in the mid ’90s estimated the number to be 100million.

18)   The social phenomenon of street children is increasing as the world’s population grows; sixout of ten urban dwellers are expected to be under 18 years of age by the year 2005

19)   According to UNICEF, there are about 25 million street children in Asia and an estimated 10million in Africa (1998).

20)   Africa today has 10.7 million orphans just as a result of AIDS and the numbers are growing(UNAIDS). With fewer and fewer family members left to care for them, many–if not most–of these children will join the street children of Africa who are already there because ofpoverty, wars and ethnic conflicts

21)   In the Philippines, the Department of Social Welfare and Development estimated, in 1991,1.2 million street children. Action International Ministries says 50,000 to 70,000 streetchildren live in Manila alone.

22)   India’s Ministry of Social Welfare estimated that of the 10.9 million people residing inCalcutta in 1992, there were 75,000 to 200,000 children living in the streets. Agencies agreethe number is much higher now, and deaths of parents from HIV/AIDS are likely to cause thenumbers to rise more rapidly.

US decries ‘modern-day slavery’

US decries ‘modern-day slavery’

A prostitute

Some women are duped into prostitution jobs

Human trafficking has reached staggering proportions, affecting more than 700,000 people a year, a US State Department report says.

US Secretary of State Colin Powell presented the first annual report, Victims of Trafficking and Violence Protection Act, at a press conference on Thursday.

US Secretary of State Colin Powell

Mr Powell: Trafficking is an abomination against humanity

Most of the victims of trafficking are women and children, the report says.

Some are duped, answering advertisements to work in a new country and finding themselves virtual prisoners once they arrive.

Others are coerced by criminals or are sold into a modern form of slavery by a relative, an acquaintance or even a family friend.

The report estimates that 45,000 to 50,000 people are trafficked annually through the United States, a transit rather than destination point.

“Tier three” countries
Democratic Republic of Congo
Saudi Arabia
South Korea
United Arab Emirates

Mr Powell said a special task force would be set up in the United States “to safeguard the vulnerable, to punish the traffickers, to care for their victims and to prevent future trafficking”.

Victims worldwide “are subjected to threats against their person and family, violence, horrific living conditions and dangerous workplaces,” the report says.

They end up working as cheap labour, some on construction sites, others in clothing factories and many in brothels.

US Secretary of State Colin Powell called the practice an “abomination against humanity” and said Washington would work to put an end to it.

The report lists the root causes for trafficking as “greed, moral turpitude, economics, political instability and transition and social factors”.

Countries not complying

Many countries are working to end the problem, the report says, but it lists 23 that are failing to do so.

Among them, in “tier three”, the lowest category, are close American allies, including Greece, Israel, Saudi Arabia, South Korea and Turkey.

Israel, the report says, is a destination point mainly for women trafficked from former Soviet states, Brazil, Turkey, South Africa and Asia.

But the report notes that the Israeli Government has “begun to take some steps” to combat the problem.

The report says that in Saudi Arabia, some expatriate workers were “forced into domestic servitude and sexual exploitation”.

It describes Greece as a transit and destination point and says the country “has not yet acknowledged publicly that trafficking is a problem”.

Countries trying

“Tier two” includes 47 countries that have failed to meet minimum standards, but are trying. This category includes China, France and Japan.

And “tier one” countries are those that have been prosecuting perpetrators of illegal trade and protecting victims.

Britain, Canada, Germany and Hong Kong were in this section, along with Austria, Belgium, Colombia, Italy, the Netherlands, Spain, Switzerland and Taiwan.

Under legislation passed by the US Congress last year, countries have until 2003 to show that they are serious about ending the practice, otherwise Washington may impose sanctions against them.

Understanding subtle sexism: detection and use of sexist language

Sex Roles: A Journal of Research,  August, 2004 by Janet K. Swim,  Robyn Mallett,  Charles Stangor

Sexism comes in many different forms, including blatant, covert, and subtle sexism (Benokraitis & Feagin, 1999). Blatant sexism is defined as obviously unequal and unfair treatment of women relative to men, whereas covert sexism is defined as unequal and unfair treatment of women that is recognized but purposefully hidden from view. Both blatant and covert sexism are intended, but only covert sexism is hidden. In comparison to these two forms, subtle sexism represents unequal and unfair treatment of women that is not recognized by many people because it is perceived to be normative, and therefore does not appear unusual. Thus, like covert sexism, subtle sexism is hidden but unlike covert sexism, subtle sexism is not intentionally harmful. Subtle sexism is particularly interesting from both theoretical and practical perspectives because it may be quite prevalent (Benokraitis & Feagin, 1999), and may have an insidious impact on its victims (Swim, Hyers, Cohen, Fitzgerald, & Bylsma, 2003).

Sexist language is an example of subtle sexism in that it consists of speech that reinforces and perpetuates gender stereotypes and status differences between women and men (Banaji & Hardin, 1996; Crawford, 2001; Gay, 1997; Maass & Arcuri, 1996; McConnell & Fazio, 1996). Sexist language is learned at an early age (Hyde, 1984) and can be considered a linguistic habit (Lips, 1997). People may use sexist language for a variety of reasons. They may do so because it is traditional, it is ingrained in current written and spoken language and can be difficult to change, people lack knowledge about what constitutes sexist language, people do not believe that such language is sexist, or people are attempting to protect established social hierarchies (Parks & Roberton, 1998; Ruscher, 2001).

The purpose of the present research was to understand better people’s awareness of and engagement in subtle sexist behavior by way of understanding their awareness of and use of sexist language. We were specifically interested in testing whether Modern Sexist beliefs predicted detection of sexist language. Unlike old-fashioned sexists who explicitly support gender inequality and endorse traditional gender roles, Modern (or Neo) Sexists express beliefs that indirectly condone the unequal treatment of women and men (Swim, Aikin, Hall, & Hunter, 1995; Tougas, Brown, Beaton, & Joly, 1995). Indirectly condoning unequal treatment of women and men may be a result of people’s lack of awareness of subtle sexism.

Subtle sexism might go unnoticed if certain subtle behaviors are not defined as sexist and subtle sexism might not be perceived to be problematic if it is not noticed. There is evidence that Modern Sexist beliefs are associated with a lower likelihood of defining some behaviors as sexist. Endorsement of Modern Sexist beliefs was associated with being less likely to label beliefs from several sexism scales and everyday sexist behaviors as sexist (Swim, Mallet, Russo-Devosa, & Stangor, in press) and with being less likely to label particular types of sexual encounters as sexual harassment (Swim & Cohen, 1997). These findings suggest that Modern Sexists have a relatively restricted definition of what constitutes sexism. In Study 1, we examined individuals’ ability to detect the occurrence of subtle sexism in language and tested whether the inability to do so was particularly likely for those who endorse Modern Sexist beliefs.

People who are relatively unaware of subtle sexist behaviors, either because they do not notice them or do not consider them to be sexist, could be the ones who are most likely to engage in such behavior. That is, they may be less concerned about engaging in subtle sexist behaviors because they do not see the behaviors as problematic. Study 2 was designed to test whether Modern Sexism predicts the tendency to engage in a particular type of subtle sexist behavior–the use of sexist language.

For the full article: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2294/is_3-4_51/ai_n6212696